I have had a hard time making up my mind when it comes to social networking. I've been in and out of Facebook a couple of times now (current status: out, I find I'm a lot happier that way). I'm on Ravelry but mostly use it as a knitting notebook rather than a social outlet. When I started posting my sewing projects to Flickr in 2011, I was very shy about showing my kids' faces. And I was the same way when I started this blog - I didn't even use their names.
So for the last five years or so, a fierce debate has been raging in my head. Do I go the route of some of the blogs I follow, which feature lovely photos in which you never see a child's face? Probably Actually, S is for Sewing and Nest Full of Eggs come to mind. Or the route of other bloggers who draw you in with beautiful photos of their kids and funny stories to illustrate their temperaments? (See Five and Counting, Stitched Together and Inder Loves Folk Art).
The latter blogs drew me in, made me feel welcome and almost part of the family. I got to know them and I loved it. I wanted, so much, to share a little bit of our life, to participate in this community the way many others do, to feel a little less anonymous. So I began using my children's real names on the blog and started posting photos featuring their faces. I did the same on Flickr.
And then one day, maybe six weeks ago, I received a notification that someone whose name I did not recognize had favorited a couple of my photos on Flickr. This happens from time to time. I usually click through to see who they are, have a browse through their photos or favorites to get a sense of whether they are interested in sewing or something else. If it's "something else," I will usually block them, but of course I am aware there may be others interested in "something else" who are looking at my photos and never make themselves known.
The man in question was interested in a few photos of Gabriel wearing swim trunks I had sewn last year. I opened his favorites with a sinking feeling that was confirmed when my eyes met with row upon row of photos of little boys - wearing little or nothing.
I wanted to throw up. I immediately blocked him and set about fiddling with my privacy settings.
It's not that I did not know that this was a possibility. In fact, the photos in question were headless because I was uncomfortable posting identifiable photos of my son in his swimsuit. So I'm not stupid. But even so, seeing photos of my little boy in that line-up ... it was an awful kick in the stomach.
So I thought about it. For weeks. And ultimately I have decided that I don't want to stop blogging. I don't want to leave Flickr. I don't want to go Internet dark. (In fact, I even joined Instagram last week - mostly because no one is on Flickr anymore - find me here). But I just don't feel totally comfortable posting identifiable photos of my kids online - honestly I am not sure I ever was fully comfortable with it. So from now on I will mostly be posting headless photos and the like.
As for these headless shots, they are both Oliver+S Playtime Leggings in jegging fabric - two different fabrics bought at different times at different stores and I don't remember any of the details.
Z's are a size 5 with an extra inch of length and N's are a size 5 with 4" extra. She probably only needed 3" extra but I accounted for shrinkage and growth; I need these to get us to summer at the least. My love for this pattern is already well documented (here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here and here), so I guess there isn't much more to say about that!